Divorce can be a difficult time for parents and children. Parents may worry about how to best support their children through the process, while children may wonder what their family relationships may be like moving forward.
It’s natural for your children to turn to you for advice and answers during this time. Below, our Michigan family law attorneys provide answers to three common questions that children ask about divorce.
#1. Why Do You Have to Split Up?
One of the most common questions that children ask about a divorce is why it’s happening in the first place.
The best way to approach any of your children’s questions (and especially this one) is with patience and compassion. Your marriage is what your children are used to, and many children fear change.
As such, a good answer to this question will express an understanding of why your children fear the change, but also reassurance that the change will be better for everyone involved:
“We know this decision is difficult for you. But, your mom [or dad] and I have tried to make changes, but we have decided that this is the best way for all of us to be happier and healthier. We will always be your parents and we will always love you as much as we do now, which is a lot.”
#2. Do We Have to Move?
One thing that children fear the most about a divorce is the prospect of having to move homes and schools. While every situation is unique, it’s best to help your children understand that not every change is bad, and that you and your spouse will do everything you can to make sure your children are happy with what comes next:
“I know why you may feel worried about the possibility of moving. However, your dad [or mom] and I are going to do everything we can to keep you in the same schools. And, if we do have to move, we will make sure that you are happy in our new home, too.”
#3. Is This My Fault?
Children often shoulder the blame for issues that the family experiences, simply because it can be difficult for children to identify and understand the external factors that are contributing to the situation. So, make sure that you help your children understand they played no role in the demise of your marriage:
“This is entirely between your mom [or dad] and I, and it is something that we have to work through ourselves. Absolutely nothing you did played any role in us deciding to split up. We both love you very much and we are so proud of you.”
Going Through a Divorce? We’re Here to Help
We know divorce can be extremely difficult—emotionally and financially. Our experienced family law attorneys are here to help you through the legal process more easily while working toward the best possible outcome for you and your children.
Contact Grewal Law PLLC at (888) 211-5798 to schedule a free consultation.